Choosing the Right Opportunites

What is choice?
When do you know you’ve decided?
How do you seek opportunities?
What is right or wrong opportunities to you (meaning)?
Do opportunities fall in your lap or do you make them?
What feels right to you?
How can we let go of regrets on a previous opportunity?
What is the difference between opportunity and obligation?
How can we create more opportunity?

Choice is an active moment, a freedom, and a space for options. Choice is an alignment of the brain, heart, and gut; it’s an alignment of logic, feeling, and intuition. So what stops us from making conscious choices? I believe it to be the gut or the intuition. We are so caught up in the external influences that cloud our intuition. It slowly eats away at you until you cannot recognize your own intuition.

When we do find our intuition, we let go of our fears and anxieties but also experience change. There is a sense of clarity and resolve. Keep going regardless. One exercise to help you find our intuition is to write down your fears. Write them down and put the date you wrote it down next to it. Then, every year check in on that list. Update it by crossing off the fears you’ve overcome, add more, change some - do what your intuition tells you.

How you choose to live every moment defines you. Ask yourself what would future you want to be? Be intentional about who you are and how you show up in the world. Someone once said your life is like God’s playground - there is no right or wrong, just enjoyment and care. The playground also acts like a healthy boundary. It gives character and virtue to the playground, or your life in real terms.

We seek to find community with people who who we can trust and share aligned values. The desire to do and be overcomes fear sometimes. Choosing desire over fear sometimes gives way to anxiety. The less decisions are more freeing. And there is creativity within boundaries.

Have you ever heard of the Fig Tree allegory? It goes you can pick the figs from the tree but the more you pick, the more you are going to drop. The idea is pick your figs from the same branch, or in other words, pick a lane. Hold on to your figs, eat them, or maybe even plant them. It creates a sense of duty.

If we learn to have more childhood freedoms at an earlier age or are able to teach our children to have more freedoms. It all leads to higher decision making. It’s no surprise that the older generations are better at decision making because they lived freely as children. They took more risks. The newer generations have more regrets about things about the things they didn’t do. The older generations have lessons learned from the risks that were taken. Last thing I wanted to mention is that deciding for yourself is different than deciding for a group. Giving grace to others and yourself for the decisions made is always better than being judgmental.